Dilemma
Here's a dilemma that's been bugging me for a while....
As you all know, many of Kuwait's bloggers have gone to great lengths to maintain their anonymity - which is a good thing in the case of Abu Hafs - while others like myself simply don't care who knows.
But there is one particular blogger whose identity I happen to know, and I also know for a fact that she knows mine. I just don't know if she knows that I know who she is. Did that make sense?
I've seen her at public and social occasions many times, and every time I've wanted to spend some time chatting with her about the blogs, since blogging has become a huge part of my life (for better or worse!) but I never said anything about it to her out of respect for her privacy... and I worry that I might have seemed very cold and anti-social!
Bloggers, I could use your input on this.. Please tell me what I should do next time I run into her.
As for the blogger in question (you know who you are!)... next time you see me, please put my mind at ease and lets dish about the blogs... there's so much to talk about!!
36 Comments:
Oh zeeez ya zeez , you dont have to let her know that you know her. Just let thing go normaly .
or if your can't just e-mail her and give her a hint that you know her if she replied normaly and didn't care then don't tell her , if the oppisite then you know what to do.
Tara 3addy i know lots of bloggers and i meet with them and they don't know its me :)
20/3/05 9:35 AM
I should've mentioned that her blog can get pretty bold at times (no it's not Jewaira!)... so that's why I respect her privacy and keep my distance
20/3/05 9:45 AM
Zaydoun, send her an email
"I know who u r, I know where u live!"
She will adore u ;P
20/3/05 10:21 AM
WB btw ;P
20/3/05 10:23 AM
Well this is a good time for her to realize you dont mind being known as a blogger ... now its her move. Good luck. I know the feeling.
20/3/05 10:26 AM
1-what is different this time around. You always acted like you don?t care to know the identity of the bloggers .
2-just approach her, even though her blogs might be bold I believe she wouldn?t mind you telling her that you know cuz she knows that you read them.
3-It seems my dear friend you are falling for her
20/3/05 10:40 AM
Mosan, I still don't care... but I found out about her by sheer coincidence, and every time I see her I want to say that I like her blog. Also, I worry about seeming anti-social, which you know that I'm NOT!
20/3/05 11:01 AM
You are naturally an out spoken person, I am surprised that you have doubts approaching her. In other words find the rite time and tell her.
Remember In those cases timing is everything.
20/3/05 11:06 AM
Mosan.. It's HER privacy I am respecting
20/3/05 11:08 AM
When you see her next time why don't you make small talk and then casually bring up the subject of blogs and blogging.
If she pretends to know nothing about it, then she may not want you to pursue the matter.
If she is interested in the topic and talks about yours/other blogs, then you may do well to take it from there.
I think it is less presumptious than an email.
20/3/05 11:13 AM
Zaydoun
Beleive me ..
As soon as she knows you know.. its DONE..
everything will change
To all you bloggers who know bloggers out there ..
There is a reason why people dont use their real names..
I personally prefer people not telling me.. even if they know who I am..
So Zaydoun .. da3 il ayyama taf3alo ma tasha'
3ad itsadeg there is this one blogger who is AMAMZING .. and im 99% sure that he is who I think he is.. bas I think that as soon as I tell him, khalas he'll change..
20/3/05 11:17 AM
Some Dilemma...
Before you decide on how you can tell her, I suggest you ask yourself and try to reach a true honest answer as to why you want her to know. Simply to tell her you like her blog is not good enough, you can always do that through her blog.
You have posted what you called a dilemma to the whole world, which means you must have a strong good reason and it is very important for you. Once you do that, telling her is then a piece of cake! Don't waste time, do it as quickly as possible...
Is it possible she knows by now after your post and all these comments?
Bear in mind that sometimes, what we don?t know, doesn?t hurt us!
20/3/05 11:42 AM
Lucrezia... I'm hoping she'll get the hint and tell me
Btw, this isn't some unrequited crush, I think she is already committed... but it would be nice to chat with her about the blog world for a change
20/3/05 11:58 AM
zaydoun
I know the feeling, I've been there.
Unlike you, I couldn't hold myself from saying HEY BLOGGER !
but the result was a total denial
LOL
I agree with jewaira ..
20/3/05 12:37 PM
you like her don't you, you naughty buoy. :D
I've had similar experiences with several people people I have interacted with, and found very interesting online. Beleive me, once you meet them, the magic is lost. Part of the excitement to meet up with her lies in the mystery of not knowing. Leave her be, and just read her blog dammit... unless she's drop dead gorgeous ofcourse... then by all means ATTACK!!!
20/3/05 12:51 PM
as a guy who went to kuwait bloggers meeting its nice to connect names to faces , yet it does change the way you look at the blogger writing
my advice to you zaydon , ask your self this ( do i care if she knowns who am I ? ) if its yes , don't approch her , if its no , go talk to her , who knowns , maybe it become the first kuwaiti bloggers wedding :P
20/3/05 12:59 PM
Z master
I once was confronted at a gathering by someone who new me through my blog and I didn?t know him. As we were talking a blogger joined us but she didn?t know that I knew her blog so I confronted her and had good & fun chat.
Do I know her?
20/3/05 1:28 PM
Don't do a thing, she will come to you, wait and see.
20/3/05 1:31 PM
I?d say leave it as it is; it?s much better this way
20/3/05 1:55 PM
And in
this labyrinth,
where night
is blind....
20/3/05 2:00 PM
Bo Jaij,
The Phaaaaaaaaaantom of the blogworld is t(here), inside your mind!
Zaydound, use cleaver subtle references to her blog ideas as a disguised method of approach, and let it roll from there?
20/3/05 2:09 PM
Well , if you feel like u wanna do it just do it and talk to her , but i am afraid that u might be shocked by her reaction , so , don't create the pretty image about her , but that doesn't mean to forget about it all, give it a try :)
20/3/05 2:10 PM
how old are you? surely not a teenager? 'cause this post reeks of "I love her but I can't tell her that I do, for fear of rejection" yada yada yada...
get it over with boy, stand up straight and out with it. I'm sure she'll appreciate it!
G'luck.
20/3/05 2:16 PM
Zeez,
Just do what you did the night of Kitsch. From what I remember (!!), it went pretty smoothly, no?
:)
N.
20/3/05 2:50 PM
People, I just want to enjoy some سوالف about the blogs with her. THAT'S ALL!
SheWrites... it was much easier with you because I didnt know you from before. The blogger I'm referring to, I know her personally and I know her family and she knows me and my family too.
20/3/05 2:55 PM
You have achieved your goal, she will read this post and she will approach you, so be patient.
20/3/05 3:00 PM
E-mail this blog to her and that should does it! :-)
20/3/05 3:15 PM
can't you chat with her about something other than blogs so that you can seem less cold and anti-social (would you really be able to look cold and anti-social?) and then you would sense whether it would be ok to tell her that you know her alter-ego. Some people feel that knowing who knows them might change the way they write or the freedom with which they write..good luck.
20/3/05 3:16 PM
Committed?!
Been busy, it seems i have missed a lot! But where did you gather that she's 'committed' from?
21/3/05 10:32 AM
Sheba.. just a wild guess, but you would know better ;-)
So what do you think I should do when i see her next time?
21/3/05 11:16 AM
Zaydoun, i dont think she's been 'committed' since last yr :p
As to what to do, i think a smile would take you along way
21/3/05 12:02 PM
A smile and a wink ;-)
21/3/05 12:15 PM
I totally agree with Jewaira:
" When you see her next time why don't you make small talk and then casually bring up the subject of blogs and blogging.
If she pretends to know nothing about it, then she may not want you to pursue the matter.
If she is interested in the topic and talks about yours/other blogs, then you may do well to take it from there.
I think it is less presumptious than an email."
21/3/05 12:50 PM
I'm flattered btw, thank you :)
22/3/05 10:28 AM
Well the cat's out of the bag now ;-)
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